“Destiny
is the bright light beckoning us onward—our desires, talents, and ambitions
guideposts along the way. The need to define what the light is, or the exact
path to get there, would circumvent the adventure and limit the cosmic
possibilities. Destiny is found in the eternal now by following Her
Divine bread crumbs.” |
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—Xia, Founder
& Director
Temple of the Goddess, Los Angeles |
The Journey by Xia
I
suppose all adopted children go through much the same process, searching for
answers, coming to terms with who they are, or who they thought they were. I
don’t remember the first time I knew that I was different. For me, it was a
slow awakening, a quiet knowing that I was somehow unlike those around me. I
was sure I’d come from somewhere else. There was so much that was left
unspoken, hidden truths whispered of the outside world. Things only hinted
at on the breath of conversations. I felt denied what should have been mine.
My despair increased in direct proportion to my longing for the other, the
one who would reflect the truth of who I was.
I listened and watched, like an eaglet looking for the source
of its nourishment. I gathered pieces of dropped dialogue, building a nest
of knowledge. Over the years, that quiet knowing within me grew until it was
a disturbing rumble that shook me out of complacency, causing me to declare
once and for all this hidden knowledge I was holding in my heart. Like a
petulant child, I demanded answers, and a right to search for the truth, my
truth–the truth of my lineage. Isn’t that, after all, ultimately, what
informs who we are, at least on some level?
I grew up believing myself to be a “daughter of Eve.” I
thought this first mother, as she was depicted in the story of Creation, was
my mother, my mythological mother. It was in Eve that my feminine roots were
grounded. Her fall from grace became my responsibility. Her choice to taste
the apple of knowledge and power were my blame. The lure of her sexuality,
which caused a man to follow her into “sin,” were my burden to bear. Sin was
all that was wrong in the world–all the hate, pain, anger, greed, and
destruction.
The loss of paradise was the crime that I, and all my daughters
for generations to come, would be accused of, and it was the fault of the
first woman, my foremother, Eve. She couldn’t be trusted with power and
knowledge, and ultimately, her sexuality was the instrument that brought all
this sin down upon “mankind.” This I was told, was why man
was placed above woman. This, was why women could not teach, preach,
or be president. This was why women were to bear children in pain.
All this debasing of women was punishment by God, the Father, because
one woman wanted to be powerful, bright, wise, and sexual.
The story of Eve was told to me so often that I felt the weight
of her burden as if it were my own. But to my young girl’s eyes, there was a
huge discrepancy. What I saw around me were magnificent, wonderful,
sensuous, loving women. Mothers who gave everything, including food from
their own bodies, to care for their young. There was one who risked her life
in a birth no one thought she could survive. This kind of love and sacrifice
is the very nature of creation, and it was woman who did it, not man, the
father. The women I knew, all these daughters of Eve, were strong, wise,
loving, and not at all the stuff of the Genesis Creation.
All my life I had been spiritually connected, and I knew there
was something out there–my roots–the something that I came from. Growing up,
that connection manifested in different forms for me. I sensed Spirit in the
voice of the leaves when wind joyously danced through them. I felt the
Divine in the ocean waves that lapped against my lanky girl legs. I
recognized the essence of Creation in a nursing mother suckling her babe in
the church nursery. I experienced the powerful holiness of my blooming
sexuality, and knew, in spite of the condemnation I heard, that it was good.
What I grew up with no longer sufficed. I wondered, Did it
really matter by what name the Creator was called? It made sense to the
teenager, the young woman I was becoming, that God could just as easily have
been Mother as Father. Maybe it was only the interpretation of men some four
thousand years ago that made God male. So at age eighteen I walked away from
the teachings of my childhood. I denied my adoptive mother, Eve, and began
the search for my spiritual and mythological roots, the journey to find my
source.
The following years, decades, were spent exploring every
denomination, mainstream church and obscure spiritual meeting I came across.
I read everything from Thomas Merton to Edgar Cayce, but all the while my
prayers were daily, fervently addressed to Mother–simply because it felt
right. I married, divorced, moved away from the place of my birth, found a
career, remarried, and moved farther away, still continuing the search for
my source.
Eventually, there were five powerful clues that were to lead me
to my destination. These clues were actually energetic experiences that
created a deep shift in my soul–an awakening, a remembering of the truth I
had known on a cellular level all my life.
The first shift came when I read The Mists of Avalon by
Marion Zimmer Bradley, a deeply spiritual feminist retelling of the popular
Arthurian legend. When I put this book down (the first time), I realized
that history, what we believed to be reality, as well as the legends that
inform us, are as arbitrary and manipulated as I had come to believe
religion was. The realization that this legendary story could have such a
magnificent, but diametrically opposed interpretation caused the first
fundamental movement toward my truth.
The second shift occurred some years later when I accidentally
came across The Chalice and the Blade by Riane Eisler, the
groundbreaking book that has been compared in importance to Darwin’s Origin of Species. This powerful book introduced me to the work of
Marija Gimbutas, considered by many to be the mother of the modern-day
women’s spirituality movement. Dr. Gimbutas was the first archaeologist to
utilize linguistics and ethnology to assist in interpreting archaeological
data. She directed five major archaeological excavations that revealed that
our earliest documented European ancestors were very different from what we
previously thought them to be.
Gimbutas wrote many papers, but her last three books,
Goddesses and Gods of Old Europe: 6,500-3,500 B.C., Myths and Cult Images
(1974), The Language of the Goddess (1989), and The Civilization
of the Goddess (1991) described a civilization with organized cities; a
peaceful, egalitarian society; very sophisticated art; and, most
interestingly, a religion centered on a female deity. My mind reeled,
and again, a profound shift occurred in my psychic landscape. Since my late
teens I had, organically, been drawn to and praying to the Mother, and now I
had found historical, archeological, and mythological evidence that told me
that she had been around, literally, since time immemorial.
While shaken by the knowledge and awareness these two books
brought, there was, as yet, no real change occurring in my life. It was an
intellectual enlightenment that had not moved into the deeper space of body
and emotions–except, perhaps, in a generalized anger that so much of women’s
history has been lost and hidden.
The next change was so powerful that, ultimately, it opened the
way for my body and emotions to be affected by all the events to come. After
many years of wanting a baby, I at last became pregnant. The experience of
drawing this magnificent soul to me, of feeling the processes of my body
creating his life form, of holding his little body while he fed from my
breast was, undoubtedly, the most sacred experience of my life.
I was fortunate that my son has also been one of my most
important influences. The most valuable lesson he imparted, even as an
infant, was that I should love myself. One of the great blessings of my life
is that I found the right lessons, the right teachings, at just the right
time, preparing the way for me to learn exactly what I needed to know. I
can’t speak of them all, but there have been two experiences who, very
specifically, fundamentally, and irrevocably influenced the path I now find
myself on.
A few years after my son was born, my friend, Sharon Rizk
called. She had been asking me on and off for quite some time to come to a
shamanic drumming group, and on this occasion she nearly insisted that I
attend an upcoming all-day workshop led by a shaman of the South American
tradition. She was sure I was supposed to go; and somehow I knew Spirit
spoke through her and that indeed, I was meant to be there. The time had
come to move out of my head, and to put my feet on the path. I wasn’t sure,
at the time, what the path was. But I knew that I was quickly becoming one
of the “walking dead”–living my life in fear of being a woman in her own
power, literally walking through my days, wondering what I was doing here on
the planet. Except for my son, I hadn’t a clue about where I was supposed to
be or what I should be doing.
So I went to hear Alberto Villoldo, author of several books
including Dance of the Four Winds. In addition to Dr. Villoldo’s
strong connection to the feminine, he dramatically and forever shifted my
paradigm with one profound concept. He spoke of the Genesis creation
mythology that we in this culture have consciously, and unconsciously,
accepted. While many of us reject the Bible as our central spiritual truth,
we continue to live as though being kicked out of the Garden were our true
heritage. The truth of that mythological concept as it applied to me, the
role I had played as a “daughter of Eve,” reverberated throughout my
being, reflecting the deep fears that were keeping me from experiencing my
fullness as a woman.
Coincidentally, Sharon also invited me to attend a lecture at
UCLA given by Marija Gimbutas at one of her last public appearances. It was
on this fateful day that I met someone who irrevocably changed my life.
Another person who accompanied us on our trek to see Dr. Gimbutas was Jeanne
Leiter Clark, who is now known as Pythia. While most consider me the
“founder” of Temple of the Goddess, undoubtably without Pythia’s belief in
the vision given me by the Goddess, without her steadfastness, her support,
her constancy, as well as her impeccable editorial skills, I cannot imagine
there would ever be such an organization. As a friend, a sister, Pythia and
her husband, Mel Clark have been my home away from home.
Around this same time another woman called who had been
inviting me to her goddess circles for years, and once again asked me to
come to a circle honoring the Chinese Goddess Kuan Yin. While praying to the
Mother seemed very appropriate, somehow the idea of actually interacting
with a goddess was scary as hell. (The irony of that statement is that the
word and the concept of “hell” derive from the Scandinavian Goddess Hel, who
receives the dead back into her fires of regeneration for rebirth into a
new life.) I learned that Kuan Yin, like Mary, was known as the gentle
mother of compassion and love. I was very drawn to her and, once again, felt
Spirit telling me that I was supposed to be there.
As thousands of women before me have said, and thousands who
will come after me will say, worshiping the goddess in this way was like
coming home. To be in circle with other women, to move, dance, drum, sound,
laugh, heal, grieve, and support one another in whatever stage of life we
are in was one of the most liberating experiences of my life.
This was the place my search had been driving me to. I prayed
at the beginning of the evening to Kuan Yin to reveal herself to me. What
she showed me was the reflection of my own compassionate mother love, the
essence that I so freely gave to my own child and all those around me. I
recognized her and, consequently, my own divine essence for the first time.
My work now began in earnest. I went to every ritual and circle
for the goddess that I could find. I wanted to experience her fully. I also
acquired many animal teachers in the process of shamanic journeying. The
most important guides were my teachers in the astral/spiritual plane, those
whom I now know as “the grandmothers.”
Shortly after I became involved with goddess work, I decided to
attend a Goddess Easter event, thrilled to be reclaiming this ancient
goddess holiday. I finally understood both the origins and the role of eggs
and bunnies (fertility symbols) that were associated with this spring
celebration. In preparation for the holiday, I had bought massive quantities
of eggs for my son and me to decorate. The night before the Easter event, I
went to my refrigerator to conjure a potluck dish of some sort to bring. The
several dozens of eggs not used for decorating grabbed my eye, and I thought
I’d make deviled eggs for the goddess event. In that moment I had an
epiphany so profound that it knocked me on my butt, literally, in front of
the fridge. Deviled eggs. I realized that nothing had been left
sacred for women. Life begins in woman as an egg, and the patriarchal system
put its connotation, its interpretation of evil on it, and thought it was
cute.
As small as this revelation may appear to others, for me, it
was incredibly profound in its simplicity. I felt as if a veil had been
lifted from my eyes. No longer would I blindly accept truths, words,
language, or dictums from society. I would ferret out the truth, my
truth, no matter what the cost.
My search now took me into the intimate arms of my mythological
mother. I found, and embraced, her in all her many guises. I came to
understand her vast multiplicity and amusingly enough began to understand
myself and the world around me in a more profound way. I learned that the
Goddess is both the One and the Many. As the One, she is all of creation–the
cosmos, the universe, and nature herself. As the Many, she manifests in
myriad forms. From all over the world, she reveals herself to us by many
different names. She is Isis, Aphrodite, Inanna, Pele, Yemaya, Shakti,
Kali-Ma . . . literally "She of Ten Thousand Names," which I learned is one
of the oldest epitaphs of the Goddess.
Modern women have taken up the ancient symbol of the goddess as
an emblem of their own undeniable feminine power. As the collective
unconscious continues to awaken to this timeless and essential archetype,
society will once again have a context for the balance needed to heal both
the planet and the fractured psychological landscape of society.
Identification with the divine feminine was an unparalleled act of
empowerment for me.
The following years saw me hurled into many, many changes. No
part of my life remained unscathed. Relationship with my mythological mother
required an impeccable consciousness. No stone was left unturned. No shadow
left unconfronted. She was a taskmaster like no other. Brutal honesty and
self-truth were the thorns she had sown on the path I now trudged. Courage,
faith, and tenacity were the required weapons on this spiritual warrior’s
trek.
I explored the many faces and myths of my ancient mother and
each facet of knowledge seemed a rite of passage. By reclaiming the
magnificent ancient female archetypes of the goddess from folklore,
forgotten bookshelves, and the recesses of the collective unconscious, I
undertook a journey toward wholeness that I could never have imagined while
growing up in my little Southern Baptist church.
I descended into the underworld as the Goddess Inanna when my
marriage fell apart. I learned to embrace the darker emotions I’d been
avoiding such as anger and rage. My archetypal journey enabled me to embrace
my full sexuality as I explored the myth of the virgin-whore. I unearthed
the true meaning of the virgin, a woman whole unto herself–independent,
self-reliant and responsible for all my choices. I learned about the
fierceness of Sekhmet, the Lion Goddess of Egypt, when my son, my own little
cub was threatened. Isis then became my guide as I sailed through a sea of
grief after the loss of my father. She taught me that hope and new life
inevitably follow death. As with any profound awakening, experience with
myths and archetypes stirred the deep recesses of my psyche shining a light
into the shadows and hidden places of my heart and mind.
Many goddesses from around the world are seen as wrathful
deities aiming an arrow of enlightenment, slashing through imposed
limitations or debilitating patterns with a sword of truth, or raising a
trident of justice against the ignorance of prejudice. The wrath they
express is aimed at the negative forces that hold us back, keeping us bound
in pain and a state of suffering. It requires great courage and support to
confront the Self fearlessly. I discovered that the path to wholeness is
rarely easy.
While the search for my source has ended, the adventure with
her is never-ending. Each day is a magnificent new journey, and I am
profoundly grateful for the gift of grace, of finding what I had so
arduously been searching for, my spiritual and mythological roots . . . my
cosmic Mother . . . she whom I now know as Goddess.
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